Sometimes it is hard being a friend,not because you don’t want to be but because you don’t know how to be. Sometimes your friend is going through something that is just tearing her apart. I Know there is nothing I can say or do to fix the situation or make it better for her and it makes me feel helpless and a failure as a friend. I know she doesn’t feel this way about me but it is how I feel about myself.
In my head, I know all I can do is be present when we are together, let her talk when she needs to talk, cry, if she needs to cry, ignore the whole sorry mess, when she needs to ignore it. It doesn’t feel like nearly enough.
I think that is why I was so grateful on Sunday when she asked if I could come spend the night and help her get her apartment together before our friend comes to town this weekend. Finally, I have some concrete way I can help. I can do something for her that makes a difference. The whole time she was working in the living room and I was working in the kitchen she kept telling me she was sorry she asked me to do this, she should be able to clean her apartment on her own. I tried to tell her I don’t mind we all have times we can use a hand.
At various times throughout my life I have had people who called themselves my friend for as long as I was happy, fun and willing to help them when they had difficulties. As soon as I wasn’t happy and fun and couldn’t help them with their problems they didn’t want to be around me. In my book, that isn’t a friend. A friend is someone who is there in good times and bad even when it is hard. I hope I am suceeding for her, even just a little bit.
Pressure Cooker Thanksgiving Turkey Meatloaf
adapted from The Big Book of Paleo Slow Cooking
1 TBS olive oil
1/2 medium onion, diced
1 lb ground turkey
3/4 tsp salt
1/8 tsp black pepper
1 celery stalk, diced small
1/2 tsp rubbed sage
1/2 tsp rosemary
1/8 tsp dried thyme
2-3 TBS dried cranberries
In a medium bowl, combine the onion, turkey, salt, pepper, celery, rubbed sage, rosemary, thyme, and cranberries. Using your hands. gently combine the ingredients. Don’t squish the meat between your fingers. You don’t want tough, overworked turkey. When the ingredients are thoroughly mixed, shape the meat into a loaf. I use a 5′ x 3′ loaf pan to shape and cook my meatloaf. You could free form it and cook it in any pan that fits your pressure cooker. Lock the lid. Bring to high pressure and cook for 5 minutes. Natural release the pressure.